Couples first of all should know and decide well about family planning. If only, they are well prepared to face all the consequences and the challenges they have to face in the due course of time go through it, in up bringing them. With due prior maturity, well awareness, good health, proper guidance, age limits, then step into it.
During pregnancy steps has to be taken to visit the doctor for checkups. Good food intakes, less of stress, exercise etc, Healthy relationships between the family members. A good bondage between the partners.
The child has to be well fed by the mother, nourished, and taken utmost care, cleanliness, health awareness. It is not an easy task to bring up an infant child.
The time when the child sleeps on the stomach, sits, stands, walks although, it creates a great cherishable moment to the parents and others. The parents must be observant in watching all the time and caring the child with due tenderness.
This is a most blessed time of every parent to go through this face. A child is a marvellous creation of God in his divinity. We are most privileged to have this child amongst us. It gives us such a joy to a meaning of parenthood.
The laughter, the smile, the cry all tingles in our ears. The whole body and the surroundings fills with joy and happiness. We forget our sorrows.
The moment the child starts saying M..A..A!!!, P..A..A!!!, the words is a heavenly bliss to us. We the parents should strive to maintain this bliss forever. In times of their difficulties we must be close to them, do not neglect. Understand a child and do not force into them our stern actions and decision taken hastily without their interest and creating all hazards in the bondage of relationship.
As far as possible do not cane the child. Let the situation be tackled with justified sternness and in making them know their mistakes. A naughty child is liked by all then a silent one. I think so all the children has the right to be naughty, and they must be naughty in a just way.
Parents has a great role in moulding their child in thought, words and deeds. They must teach their child all the basic principles needed to their day-to-day life. For instance respect to their elders in society, how to maintain their books, toys, table manners, play-time-play is a must etc.,
Once the time of their maturity come, parents must well prepare them. Even thou in schools they have been given a talk regarding it. Specially a girl child. She needs more attachment and guidance from a mother, a boy from both sides.
Awareness of a bad relationship of their child. If so precautions to set it right as-far-as –possible. We must uplift the talents from the very bud.
Show that the parents do not fight in front of their children. They must discuss all the matter even the most important within their family. Teach them how to take decision, but with the guidance of elders.
Let them talk about each days programme. How they spent it, about their friends, teachers, other incidences, new friends etc.,
Once they come to age they must be treated as friends. Even the parents must tell their problems to their children, they must know it.
Father plays a leading role as a strong personality. Mother takes care nourishes, being gentle towards the child, the child must feel secure protected and must feel free to convince them, the problems faced by them, before it becoming serious. The attachment must be there for the child to cling too. This is the most blessed moment between parent and the child.
When the parents are in intimacy they must see that children are not close by, see that the privacy is maintained. This is very important to bring up a good family oriented child. And a good member to the society.
All couples must go through parenthood. It is most virtuous moment of life’s endeavours, of the ultimate creator, where we should not forget to thank him each moment of the most wonderful marvellous times and the success of being bought to this earth, The name P-A-R-E-E=N-T-H-O-O-D Oh!! WONDERFUL!
Annie Regi (M.A Eng Literature)